The Cost of Too Many Yeses

Every yes to something outside you

is a no to something inside.

Why saying yes feels easier

Most yeses don’t feel like a cost.

They feel easier.

Less conflict.

Less resistance.

Less explaining.

But there are two kinds of resistance.

One comes from outside -

when others push back.

The other comes from inside -

when something in you doesn’t agree.

Most people learn to manage the first.

They say yes to avoid friction.

To belong.

To not disappoint.

The cost of too many yeses

What they don’t see

is that those yeses don’t disappear.

They stay.

And they add up.

Until you’re living things

you never chose.

It costs time.

It costs energy.

But that’s not the real cost.

It’s direction.

A different kind of yes

A yes that comes from outside in

keeps things as they are.

A yes that comes from inside out

doesn’t need approval.

It already knows.

That kind of yes

doesn’t wait for permission.

It starts with knowing

what is yours

before anything is asked.

Inward Muse